Life must go on
We live in an ever-challenging world. Life can shower you with blessings and happiness one day, and throw you into a pool of sorrow and heartache, the next... Each of us has to go through losing loved ones at some point in our lives. Because, let's face it, no one can live forever. Whether it's an unexpected loss or a loss of life due to old age, the one common fact is we would be sad; devastated; perhaps even angry; and tormented.
So the questions that follow are, 'Must life go on? Why am I still here? What is the point of living anymore?' Most people, even the strongest men, would buckle over with the weight of the grief they are forced to carry and cannot get rid of. Grief is a universal experience. Those who are left behind will have to go through a struggle to rekindle their lives. Moving on is not an easy task and suicide is certainly not an option. But there are little, little things that can be done to help you ease the pain as you go along.
1. Time is the most important thing. No one can get over their grief in a week or two, and it is essential that you give yourself enough time to mourn. It is ok to take a few days off work and also remember that it is ok to cry. Crying lets out all those emotions bottled up in you, and there's nothing to be embarrassed about it.
2. Initially it might be hard to sit down to eat your three meals, much less even to step out of the house. But it's crucial to get back on your feet and to eat properly, because you will help no one by getting yourself sick.
3. Research has shown how efficiently grieved people improve when asked to do simple things such as writing in a diary or have an 'armchair conversation' with that special person you lost.
4. Move in prayers and seek comfort in your faith. You might naturally turn to your friends and they would be there for you, but eventually they will get on with their lives, and your religious beliefs will be all you have left.
5. Indulge yourself in a hobby like reading, gardening, especially music. Having experienced this myself, my strongest form of support to help me back up, has been my pet dog. Pets can work wonders for your wounded soul. Then again, as mentioned in no. 1, these can only be given an attempt once you've given yourself time to mourn.
I cannot end this on a happy note... except to say be strong, and don't let go. Trying to get on with your life does not mean you're trying to forget those who left this world. It means you've simply accepted what has, and preparing yourself to live on, on behalf of them as well. Their memory will always live with us, nothing can change that.
- Nikki -
Category: Divorce and breakups, Leisure, Love and Sex
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